dream house
dear 911,
i just realized he is not the one for me. we talked about our dreams last night. and i’m not part of his. how can i hang on this relationship?
his dreams were to have a career, an own house, car. he wants to help his family in whatever means.
my dream was to have a house for my mom. finish with a degree and eventually have a job wherein at the end of each day i can say “i made someone smile today”. i want to travel, explore and experience different places.
most of his were material ones he said because mahirap daw sya whereas mine were not because i have every thing i wanted.
then we started to argue about building houses.
his side: he wants to have an own place before marrying someone. less hassle daw. at least hindi sakit sa ulo when dividing the property kun magkahiwalay man. gusto nya i-prove sa wife-to-be and in-laws nya na good provider sya. he believes that ang babae sa bahay lang. pero kun may gusto sha na i-pursue na career ok lng din. gusto nya pag dumating na yun asawa nya kumpleto na lahat para pag nagkahiwalay walang sumbatan. walang iuuwi yun girl kahit ano dahil nga sya ngprovide lahat eh kahit pa anak nya kamo. kahit mgahiwalay daw at least d sha kawawa dahil meron sha lahat.
my say: kun magkahiwalay man. yun un eh! sabi ko kasi wala naman masama kun sabay kau ng special someone nyo na bubuo ng bahay/buhay kasal man o hindi. shempre bat ka nman pipili kun d ka siguarado sa kasama mo nuh? isipin ba nman na “baka” maghiwalay in the end. umpisa pa lang mali na eh. para sakin kasi foundation na yun bahay eh. dun magsisimula. in better or for worse nga eh in sickness and health whatsoever. he’s being realistic oo nga. pero d ako agree dun. kailangan tanga yun pipiliin nya na future bride and dependent sa kanya. para siguro hindi sya iiwan kaya idadaan nya sa material na bagay.
building the future pa nga lang wala nah.
help me,
-sam
